Support for relationships ready to grow
Relationships can become stuck in familiar patterns. The same conversations repeat. One person reaches for connection while the other pulls away. Small misunderstandings grow into larger conflicts, and over time it's easy to begin wondering what's wrong—with yourself, your partner, or the relationship itself.
My approach begins from a different place. Rather than asking who's right or who's wrong, we'll become curious about the relationship as a living system. Together, we'll explore the patterns, needs, histories, and conditions shaping what happens between you. Much like tending a garden or caring for a forest, lasting change rarely comes from fixing one part in isolation. It grows from understanding the ecosystem as a whole.
My work weaves together counselling, somatic awareness, mindfulness, creativity and guided imagination, systems thinking, and the ecological framework at the heart of Tending the Relationship Garden. Again and again, I've found that viewing relationships through this lens helps soften shame and blame, making space for greater curiosity, compassion, and meaningful change.
Over many years, I've also had the privilege of supporting people whose lives don't fit neatly into conventional boxes. Many of my clients are immigrants, queer, trans, neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or navigating questions of identity and belonging. They often tell me they appreciate not having to explain or justify who they are before we can begin exploring what matters most.
Whether you're navigating recurring conflict, life transitions, cultural differences, identity, or simply hoping to build a more connected and resilient relationship, you're welcome here.
How We Work Together
Relationships are living systems. Every conversation, conflict, moment of connection, and season of change is shaped by a much larger ecosystem of experiences, needs, histories, bodies, and environments. My role is to help you slow down enough to understand that ecosystem together.
Our work draws from counselling, mindfulness, somatic awareness, communication practices, systems thinking, creative and imagination practices, and the ecological framework at the heart of Tending the Relationship Garden. Together, these approaches create opportunities to experience your relationship in new ways—not just understand it intellectually.
Together, we might explore how to:
understand recurring patterns without falling into shame or blame
communicate with greater clarity, curiosity, and compassion
recognize the needs and conditions shaping each person's experience
strengthen trust, emotional safety, and connection
navigate life transitions and uncertainty as a team
develop practical ways of relating that can be carried into everyday life
cultivate a relationship where both people have the conditions to grow and flourish
I don't believe healthy relationships emerge because we finally find the perfect communication technique. They grow through hundreds of small moments of curiosity, repair, care, and practice. My hope is that our work together helps you understand your relationship with fresh eyes, creating the conditions for lasting change to emerge over time.
Where we meet
Sessions can take place in a few different settings, depending on what feels most supportive:
outdoors (forest, shoreline, or quiet walking paths)
in my office at Senter for Relasjon at Bygdøy allé 21
online
Common Reasons Couples Seek Support
Every relationship encounters seasons of change. Sometimes those seasons bring couples closer together. Other times they expose patterns that leave both people feeling hurt, misunderstood, or unsure how to move forward.
You don't need to wait until your relationship reaches a crisis to seek support. Often, simply having a space to slow down, become curious together, and understand what's happening beneath the surface can make all the difference.
I commonly support couples who are navigating:
recurring communication challenges and conflict cycles
differences in emotional needs, ways of connecting, values, or ways of communicating
rebuilding trust after betrayal or other relational ruptures
intimacy, sexuality, and differences in desire
major life transitions, including parenthood, migration, career changes, illness, caregiving, grief, loss, or change in relationship structure
questions of gender, identity, and belonging
opening a relationship, polyamory, and other non-traditional relationship structures
cross-cultural, interracial, and intercultural relationships
neurodivergence and different ways of experiencing or processing the world
balancing autonomy, closeness, and different hopes for the future
Many couples arrive carrying several of these experiences at once. Whatever brings you here, my role isn't to fit your relationship into a category—it's to understand your unique relationship ecosystem and support you in cultivating the conditions where both people can thrive.
An Inclusive and Respectful Space
Every relationship exists within a larger ecosystem. Our identities, cultures, histories, families, bodies, communities, and lived experiences all shape how we understand ourselves, one another, and the world around us. Rather than trying to separate these influences from the relationship, we'll welcome them into the conversation with curiosity, compassion, and care.
My approach is grounded in the belief that relationship struggles are not signs that something is "wrong" with either partner. Instead, they reflect the understandable challenges of loving another person while navigating the complexity of being human together. Beginning from this perspective often softens shame and blame, creating space for greater understanding, accountability, and meaningful change.
I welcome people of all backgrounds, identities, relationship structures, and orientations. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming, sex-positive, and experienced in supporting polyamorous, open, kinky, and other non-traditional relationship structures, alongside straight, cisgender, monogamous, and more traditional couples. My intention is that you won't need to spend our time together explaining or justifying who you are before we can begin exploring what matters most to you.
I also have extensive experience working with couples navigating differences in culture, race, nationality, language, privilege, identity, and lived experience. These differences can become especially meaningful during periods of transition such as migration, parenthood, illness, caregiving, grief, career change, or other major life events. Together, we'll approach these experiences with openness, recognizing that they are part of the ecosystem shaping your relationship rather than something happening outside of it.
Above all, my intention is to create a space where both partners feel respected, understood, and supported as you cultivate the kind of relationship you want to grow together.
Explore all couples offerings…
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Private Couples Sessions
Personalized support shaped around your relationship
Private sessions offer space to explore your particular patterns, needs, and circumstances. I’ll meet you where you are and we’ll figure it out together.
Begin with one session or continue over time
In person in Oslo or online
NOK 1 800 for 75 minute session
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Tending the Relationship Garden Course
A structured series for couples who want continuity
Choose the level of support that feels right for your relationship. Every option includes unlimited lifetime access to Tending the Relationship Garden, a self-paced online course for understanding your relationship ecosystem and practicing new ways of relating.
Course only — explore the journey at your own pace
Course + 3 private sessions — personalized guidance along the way
Course + 8 private sessions — deeper support with your own trail guide
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Couples Workshops & Groups
Learn alongside other couples
Join a three-hour workshop for a gentle introduction to the Tending the Relationship Garden approach, or take the full eight-week journey with a small group of couples. You’ll learn and practice together in a supportive shared space, while the conversations and exercises about your own relationship remain private between you and your partner.
3 hr group workshops in Oslo
8 week group series in Oslo + access to online course
FAQ
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I use couples counselling and couples coaching as broad descriptions of the work we do together rather than drawing a sharp distinction between them. My approach is informed by more than a decade of experience working with couples, as well as training in relational, somatic, mindfulness-based, trauma-informed, and communication approaches.
Our work is not based around clinical diagnosis or psychiatric treatment. Instead, we explore the patterns, stories, needs, histories, and conditions shaping your relationship and practice new ways of responding to one another.
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Couples work tends to be most useful when both partners are willing to participate, even if one person feels more hopeful, motivated, or ready than the other. You do not need to arrive equally enthusiastic, but I work best when both people have genuinely agreed to be there and are open to engaging in the process.
Trying to pressure or persuade a reluctant partner into counselling usually does not create a very helpful starting point. If your partner is unsure, it may be more useful to have an open conversation about what they are concerned about, what would help them feel safer or more willing, and whether there is another kind of support they would prefer.
If your partner does not want to participate, you are still welcome to come for individual support to explore your own experience, choices, boundaries, and how you want to show up in the relationship.
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No. I am not here to referee the relationship or determine which partner has the correct version of events.
I work collaboratively with both of you and with the relationship itself. We may become curious about how each person experiences the same situation differently, what happens between you when those differences appear, and what the relationship may need in order for something new to become possible.
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That is completely welcome. Partners often have different hopes, concerns, pacing, or ways of processing.
I trust both of you to have agency in our work together. You can ask to slow down, change direction, revisit something, say no to an invitation, request more structure, or tell me when something is not landing. You do not have to agree with your partner, or with me, in order to participate meaningfully.
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When I work with a couple, the relationship is the client. Because of that, I do not hold significant relationship-relevant information in confidence from one partner while continuing to work with both of you.
If something important comes up in an individual conversation or communication with me, we will talk together about how it can be brought into the shared work. I will not unexpectedly reveal something on your behalf, but I also cannot become the keeper of a secret that materially affects the relationship.
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Not at all. Couples come for many reasons: recurring conflict, communication difficulties, disconnection, transitions, intimacy, differing needs, neurodivergence, changing relationship structures, or simply wanting to understand one another more deeply.
You do not need to wait until the relationship is in crisis. In fact, preventative work is a wonderful way to keep a relationship strong and working well for all partners.
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No. Couples sessions are not an emergency or crisis service, and I am not able to provide immediate crisis intervention between sessions.
If there is an immediate risk of harm, serious violence, or a mental health emergency, appropriate local emergency, medical, or specialist services are a better fit for that immediate need.
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I have a wide range of personal and professional experience working with a vast array of different intersecting cultural identities and expressions. I have worked with people of all different racial and ethnic backgrounds, religions, ages/generations, socioeconomic statuses, disabilities, neurotypes, sexualities, gender identities, relationship orientations, national origins, and political views. I’m someone who is comfortable holding lots of space for nuance, complexity, and polarity. Everything and everyone is welcome. Nothing is too taboo or off limits and you will not be pathologized.
I have extensive experience working with the following communities/cultural contexts:
-LGBTQIA+
-Polyamorous, non-monogamous, open relationships
-Kink and BDSM, highly taboo and stigmatized sexual identities/desires
-Sex workers
-Neurodivergence
-Chronic illness and disability
-1st and 2nd gen immigrants, third culture kids, expats, internationals
-Multiple intersecting marginalized identities